The Battle for Obedience

marinda, 13 November 2008, 4 comments
Categories: Motherhood

There are no books on my bookshelves.  I have two bookcases in the living room and both are bare.  Why, you ask?  Because I have a fourteen month old little boy who loves books.  Today his first choice was a book containing three novels:  Sense and Sensibility, Pride and Prejudice, and Emma.  I thought the language may get a little complicated for my little one, but I did thank him for reminding me that I’ve committed to reading Sense and Sensibility.  He then knocked off the Concordance and dragged it across the floor.  Many other books fell victim to my little adventurer, so I cleared the bookshelves.  The two shelf bookcase is empty and the six shelf bookcase only has books on the top three shelves.  I made a command decision and eliminated one battleground in the War of Obedience.  I have been telling Alan for weeks we needed to box up some books and he’s been telling me for weeks that we’d do it.  So today I emptied the shelves and stacked the books on Alan’s side of the bed.  A bit passive aggressive for my liking, however the books are being boxed up tonight. 

I eliminated this one battleground, not because I am giving up, but because I am more focused than ever on teaching my son to be obedient.  I would love my son to have good behavior, but even more important than that is the development of his character.  I do not believe that you have to wait until a child is older to begin working on character traits.    He is fascinated with the TV and all the electrical gadgets that are underneath it.  I have been working consistently for the past few days on keeping him from touching the TV and entertainment center, and I just didn’t want to have to say NO wherever he turned in the living room.  So I have removed one battle ground so as not to frustrate him. 

This is my first child and I do not have all the answers when it comes to disciplining children.  I am thankful for the guidance from parents and friends who have traveled this road before and are willing to share advice.  I know that it will take lots of love, patience, and consistency.  We are committed to all three because Eli is worth it. 

I’d read a book about raising boys, but remember, my bookshelves are empty.


4 Responses, Leave a Reply
  1. Aunt Kym
    15 November 2008, 9:44 am

    i love this!!! i laughed out loud when i got to the part about stacking them on alan’s side of the bed. That was AWESOME!!! I’m so proud of you and how you are raising that sweet nephew of mine!! Don’t forget to tell him every day that Aunt Kym loves him very much and he needs to relinquensh the desire to be JUST like daddy!! hahaha…love you all!!!l

  2. Beth
    18 November 2008, 2:26 am

    Something that has helped us is to walk the kids around and point to what they can’t touch. Then we go around again and ask “Can you touch that?” and prompt them to say “No ma’am” or “yes ma’am”.

    And my kids are perfect, so if you do things the way I say, you too will have perfect kids.

    Bwahahaha. An alien disguised as a good mother stole my keyboard for a second. My kids are far from perfect…so take my advice with a huge chunk of salt.

  3. marinda
    18 November 2008, 4:49 am

    What a great idea Beth! There’s only one problem. It doesn’t seem to work on the first try. You forgot to mention that detail. Hahahaha……
    Thanks for all the tips…You are a great mom!

  4. Patricia Ward
    23 March 2009, 2:44 am

    I remember this stage oh so well…. Infact my 2nd has the same tendencies.
    I know one friend turned her bookcase round to face the wall (but I thought that a bit impractical)
    I have no answer
    My husband bought a t shirt that reads

    Geek in training

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